when your boyfriend makes comments about other women?
Question by Bella: when your boyfriend makes comments about other women?
ok, dont get me wrong, i know men look at women… i know women look at other men… thats all well and good… i understand the whole fantasy thing.. but my man tends to tell me everything… every time he sees a beautiful woman on tv, he’ll tell me if he thinks she’s hott.. maybe not in so many words, but you get my point… we’ve been together for 2.5 years… i tell him that it bothers me when he points out other women because women in general are very critical of ourselves… like, he’ll mention something, and i’ll be like, “oh she has bigger boobs than me, or prettier hair, or a nicer butt..” or whatever… makes me feel like he wishes i was more like them… this is probably not the case, but my point is, i have repeatedly told him it bothers me… i dont mention every guy or celebrity i think is hott… what purpose does it serve? he knows he looks nothing like Gerard Butler, so why would i want him to feel badly, like he doesnt compare?… and sometimes when we’re out, just joking around, because i look very very young for my age, he’ll play around and call me his sister in public… no its not really funny, and i just call him an idiot, but it kinda makes me feel like he’s not proud enough to call me his gf… this has only happened a small hanfull of times… and tonight, he did it again, mentioned something about the women he sees on tv, and i tell him that i cant believe after this long, after how many times i tell him it bothers me, that he still does it!!! and i told him it bother me when he plays around like im his sister…. he gets pissed off and goes to bed… am i wrong? i mean he’s 38 years old, he has 2 kids from his previous marriage (we’re both divorced) dont you think he would understand, or at least try to understand?
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Answer by Albert
he seems to immature for his age seriously, i would not even say that and i am 21. He should understand though, its kind of stupid, you should be really serious about this and if he doesn’t understand mayeb its time to move on?.
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1Ginsue
wrote on 7 August 2010 at 6:18
I agree it is very disrespectful. My husband NEVER has done that. I’m sure he does think women are pretty, but I never hear about it, vice versa. My husband respects the way I feel. He also knows I have a deal breaker, if I catch him looking at porn anywhere, there will be a huge problem. You need to be very clear and then hold your ground, don’t give him permission to continue to do this.
2Addicted
wrote on 7 August 2010 at 7:10
YOU SHOULD DUMP HIM IF HE’S NOT PROUD OF CALLING YOU HIS GF! YOU DESERVE BETTER!
DUMP HIS ASS == he wont ever understand…
3Confused
wrote on 7 August 2010 at 8:03
My husbands make comments about other woman all the time. He doesn’t say they look better than me or compare me to them. I think it’s normal, if he’s just stating “oh, she’s hot” or she’s attractive.
Like for instance, we were watching the Vicotria Secret show and he commented on how hot one of the models was. It didn’t bother me because obviously they are hot.But if he had said, wow she’s hot and has a way bettter body than you, that would piss me off. Just because he’s comparing me to a supermodel.
Also the pretending you are his sister is just weird.
4iloveyouu.
wrote on 7 August 2010 at 8:25
i dont think he’s the right guy for you. he sounds like a jerk. i think a lot of guys celebrites are hot, but that doesnt mean i have to tell my boyfriend “he has way better hair. ” or something. thats rude.
5D L
wrote on 7 August 2010 at 9:01
Now, it seems he doesn’t give a flip about how you feel about his speaking about other women, which annoys you. Since he gets a reaction out of you, he will continue. Ignore him and sees what happens. No, he doesn’t understand, because it goes in one ear and out the other. He hasn’t learned to ‘listen’ and take in data about your feelings. Give him two more years, if you are patient enough. Perhaps he’s one of those men who comes into full maturity at 40.
6lauren d
wrote on 7 August 2010 at 9:04
I have the same problem with my boyfriend and he’s around the same age.
I didn’t mind it at first, but it gets old pretty fast. Especially when it’s CONSTANT. So I know how you feel. Im 15 years younger than him so sometimes he tells people I’m his daughter, haha. But the people he says it to knows he’s joking.
But I’ve never really told him that it bothers me when he makes comments. And if I had and he didn’t stop, there would be a big problem. That’s EVEN MORE disrespectful. He must be doing it to make you feel jealous, I don’t see any other reason why he’d keep doing it.
Tell him that if he doesn’t stop, you’re out.
Best of luck!